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Fathers Day - An Adopter's Story

It is a dedicated day to shower your dad and grandad with gifts and cards and to let them know how grateful you are for everything that they do. It’s the perfect opportunity to tell your dad how much you love and appreciate them; and you can do this by giving a grand gesture of simply taking them on a memorable day out.

In order to celebrate all the fantastic adoptive and foster fathers that there are in the UK, Adopt With Blackpool have spoken to some inspiring local dads to find out exactly what makes a great adoptive parent.

Bryan, age 54 - Blackpool

When did you adopt?
2001


What characteristics do you think make a good adoptive Father?

Patience, resilience, sense of humour, kindness, ability to see the bigger picture, beyond whatever is
happening right now.


What personal qualities do you have which make you a good father?
All of the above!


If you could give your child/ren one piece of advice for when they grow up, what would it be?
Always try to do your best.


How are you going to be celebrating Father’s Day?
Enjoying a weekend away in my caravan with my mum, wife and son.

 

Paul, age 40 - Blackpool


When did you adopt?
Firstly in 2005, followed by a second adoption in 2011.


What characteristics do you think make a good adoptive Father?
Exactly the same as those expected for any father.


What personal qualities do you have which make you a good Father?
Always be ready to answer anything. Having patience, flexibility, the ability to set ground rules and
boundaries whilst still being fun.


If you could give your child/ren one piece of advice for when they grow up, what would it be?
Always be yourself.


How are you going to be celebrating Father’s Day?
Spending some quality time together with my family.

 

Daniel, age 42 - Blackpool

When did you adopt?
Firstly in 2000, followed by a second adoption in 2002. Contrary to urban myth, we found the process
very straightforward


What characteristics do you think make a good adoptive Father?
A good adoptive father is no different to a natural father, however some extra qualities are sometimes
needed. It is especially important to recognise and not shy away from the adopted child’s identity and
background, and to also paint past events in a positive light. Once your child has settled, you are their father, and like any father will do anything to help their child through life.


What personal qualities do you have which make you a good father?
A good sense of humour, not being afraid to make a fool of yourself now and again as well as being there for support and advice when needed.


If you could give your child/ren one piece of advice for when they grow up, what would it be?
To treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.


How are you going to be celebrating Father’s Day?
I am actually going to be away much on Father’s day itself due to work commitments. However we will be celebrating with a family barbecue the night before.

 

Andrew, age 35 - Leicestershire

When did you adopt?
Started trying for children in 2005. He and his wife Olivia (36) had their first round of IVF in 2009, made the decision to adopt in 2010, became approved adopters in January 2012 and welcomed their little boy Euan* home in January 2013.


What characteristics do you think make a good adoptive Father?
Patience, calmness, understanding, and having the ability to adapt to certain situations.

What personal qualities do you have which make you a good Father?
Patience probably, or sometimes anyway. I am fortunate enough to have the energy to keep up with my active son, for now at least, and I make a good climbing frame.


If you could give your child/ren one piece of advice for when they grow up, what would it be?
Do something nice for someone, for no reason, and look at their face when you do.


How are you going to be celebrating Father’s Day?
A simple day out with my wife and son, probably lunch somewhere, as long as I am with them, that would be perfect.

 

Scott, age 37 - Cambridgeshire

When did you adopt?
We are a same sex partnership. We were 30 and 35-years-old when we had our children placed with us.
The boys are F and B, F was 8 when he was placed, and B was 7. We currently have another 7-year-old
with us as a foster child who we hope to adopt.


What characteristics do you think make a good adoptive Father?
Patience is the main characteristic you need to make a good parent, full stop! A listening ear and an
encouraging personality can also help. Humour is a must for any parent because sometimes if you did not
laugh, then you would cry!


What personal qualities do you have which make you a good Father?
What makes me a good Dad... well, my children for a start! They make each day worth it. It wasn't always
like that, there were days in earlier years where we questioned whether we had done the right thing. A
child can show you just where your abilities lie, and push you to do things you would not have done
otherwise. I think for me it is about being flexible, loving and open with my children.

 

If you could give your child/ren one piece of advice for when they grow up, what would it be?
There is lots of advice I would love to give my children, but the one thing I always say is - try your best at
school, no matter where your limits lie - at least you can always say you tried!


How are you going to be celebrating Father’s Day?

Fathers Day for us is normally like any other day, except with a meal thrown in, normally one we have to
buy ourselves... but we would not change that for the world!

 


Blackpool Council Adoption Services have assisted many prospective parents throughout Lancashire with their adoption journey, creating a happy, stable and permanent environment for an ever increasing number of children waiting to find their forever families.

There’s no such thing as the perfect or typical adoptive family. With a real need for more people to come forward, our priority is to successfully match children with the right families, so we need prospective adoptive parents like you from across the North West.


If you’ve ever considered adoption, please visit our helpful guides on what the process involves or call us on 01253 477888 to request an information pack. Over 50 children are waiting to find their forever families; if you think you could help we’d love
to hear from you. Get in touch today via our contact us page and together’s let’s make a difference.


*For security reasons, only first names have been given to protect the identities of the adoptive families taking part and all children’s names have been changed.

Published: Saturday 14th June, 2014

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